Nearly all relationship advice for men doesn’t let you know a big part of why most relationships don’t last. It is cruel and deceiving, so let’s set the matter straight with some no-nonsense guidance.
When people enter a relationship, they have high expectations. They expect to be treated well, valued, treasured, and so on. And they also assume that the relationship will last.
That’s true whether it’s a business, employment, or romantic relationship. After all, many people are very uncomfortable about searching for a new job or a new mate. They fear the frequent rejection that they will face before eventually finding a replacement.
They also fear that they may end up moving lower down on the food chain:
* “What if I can not find a new employment that pays as well as the old one and has perks as good as (if not better than) what I was receiving before?”
* “What if I am unable to find a new mate who’s pretty well (if not better than) the one I had before?”
However, few opportunities (or mates!) live up to the hype and implied promises you heard during the job interview (or on first dates, that happen to be also job interviews of a sort).
But the perceived risk of change is so shocking to most people that they’ll stay in employment or dating relationship that is far in need of what they’d prefer it to be. Though, it only takes one side to end a relationship.
Actually, there’s a good chance that you’ll one day get a “pink slip” at the job despite your would like to stay on … or to getting a “Dear John” letter despite your want to keep the relationship going.
The best way to handle that risk is to be marketable so that when relationships do end, you’ll need a way easier time replacing those relationships.
The sky-high divorce rate be supposed to tip you off to the fact that there are no absolute guarantees. Even when she solemnly promises to love and treasure you “Until death do you part”, she’s not referring to one of you really dying physically. She means until her feelings for you die. She’s here until she tires of you, and then all bets are off (although you’ll still be considered “scum” if you bail first).
That shows that yes, although you almost certainly have the fantasy of finding one women to become old with and who will stick by your side for better or for worse … the odds are not great that it will really happen.
However, there is a “quick & dirty” way of boosting your odds for relationship longevity: select a mate who needs you.
That sounds flippant, it also is not. If you have ever sat around being attentive to thirty-something ladies upset about the “man shortage”, you may have observed that each one of those females has a fairly good job and also a reasonably good income.
The truth is, the chances are outstanding that each of them has been in a position to do some traveling to exotic foreign destinations. They’ve been wined and dined now and then at trendy restaurants and clubs. And they’ve spent an excellent portion of their lives at the cash registers of the better malls in town. They’ve seen all of it and done it all. They’re bored and they are boring.
Why do such women have poorer odds of long-term relationship success? Because none of those women wants a man. Rather, they need a person who will bring home the bacon, keep them entertained and function as something of a servant.
You’re most likely aware that desires are lots shorter lived than wants. But you can play this for an advantage if you’re conscious of how women’s minds work differently than yours.
Most relationship advice for men will not tell you this as it’s politically correct. We are not.