Dating successfully is all about having good communication skills. The better you’re able to communicate to the women you are attracted to, the better you are able to attract them!

And one of the most important forms of communicating is over the phone; perhaps it’s the most important, even.

After you start seeing someone on a regular basis, and seeing them face to face, your main method of keeping the relationship going is using the TELEPHONE.

Without speaking to someone on the phone, it’s going to be difficult to create the type of rapport necessary to sustain a relationship.

So having good phone skills is VITAL to success with women!

I speak from experience, that your phone presence can either RUIN you, or make you seem so confident, mysterious, and fun that she can’t WAIT to go out with you.

Here is what you need to know to make a great impression on the phone, and keep her interested in you…

1.) Don’t Be Nervous on the phone!

If you’re nervous talking on the phone, that will cause you to let the conversation stall. She’ll be able to tell if you’re struggling to make chit-chat, and it’ll hurt her impression of you.

The key here is to NOT BE NERVOUS when you call a girl! If you find yourself feeling the nerves before you call, take some time and calm yourself down. Take some deep breaths, listen to some soothing music, and remember that there are plenty of other girls out there if it doesn’t work out with this one.

It’s important to project the right attitude while one the phone. Being (and sounding) confident will always trump nervousness! So allow yourself to have fun and relax!

2.) Be ASSERTIVE When You Talk!

Most people MUMBLE and STUMBLE all over themselves with garbage like: “What’cha been doing?” Nothing bores a girl more than these boring, awkward questions.

If you rely on the girl to lead the conversation, you’re going to find that the conversation will end quickly.

You have to be assertive in the conversation and steer it where you want it to go. Do NOT rely on her to carry this burden!

Have some topics you’d like to talk about before you call up. This will give you an idea of what to talk about if the conversation stalls. If she mentions something that interests you while talking, ask her about it in more detail.

Be active in making the conversation!

3.) Don’t just call without a reason.

Calling just for idle banter is a waste of time. While speaking with a woman should be fun, there should be a motive for you to call her.

This is important, because you don’t want her to think “Oh God, I’m going to have to spend the next 2 hours on the phone” every time she sees you calling.

Know what goal you want to achieve with the phone call before you start dialing! Is it to set up a date? Is it to touch base? Is it to strengthen your rapport?

Having a reason for calling her will help you stay focused on your end goal.

4.) Don’t ask, instead, INVITE!

When talking to a girl, the urge is to give her the last decision on what to do.

Saying something like “Are you busy Friday?” might sound reasonable to you, but you’re still putting the burden on her to find the time to hang out with you!

Whenever you push a girl over the phone to meet up, you’ll want to frame things as though you’re inviting her to join you, rather than having her choose how to meet up with you.

And trust me – there IS a difference!

Saying “Would you like to hang out tomorrow night?” is much different than “I’m going to this really awesome bar tomorrow night to check out a killer band, would you like to come?”

Offering the girl you’re talking to opportunities will motivate her to say “yes” more than if you asked her if she’d be willing to spend time with you.

5.) Be congruent with who you are!

When talking on the phone, there’s an issue that comes up where we are different people than we are normally. Maybe we’re a little more outgoing, or engaging, or funny, or whatever.

Keep in mind that in order for a date to be successful, you have to be CONSISTENT about who you are, so the girl can really get to know you.

Don’t try and be someone you’re not on the phone. Just because you’re not face-to-face does not give you the leeway to lie or misrepresent yourself. The truer you can be about who you are and what you’re like, the greater your likelihood of success.

Talking the phone is an unfortunate but necessary part of dating. Most guys don’t care for it, but if you can learn to do it better, you’ll find that many women will be far more open to meeting up with you than normal.

As I’m sure you know, it can be VERY hard to meet women.

This is doubly so if you are shy or have little experience with women.

And it isn’t even that women reject you – it’s that they IGNORE you completely! Every time you go out to a bar or club, you end up standing around alone (or with your equally shy buddies) watching people have a good time.

And trust me – I know this can be SUPER frustrating.

So the key to really improve your success with women is to learn how to get yourself NOTICED.

And I mean noticed in a good way – not the kind of way where you’re out making a fool of yourself running around in a jock strap and singing the lyrics to “Don’t You Wish Your Girlfriend Was Hot Like Me?”

No. Bad.

The key is to do some things that YOU are comfortable with that are guaranteed to get you noticed by all the hotties you seem to find yourself surrounded by.

Here are five simple things you can do to make sure women will perk up and take notice of you…

1. Dress To Impress

Because most guys base their fashion sense on what doesn’t itch, they tend to overlook one very important attention-getting factor, and that is what they wear can help them get noticed by women.

Understand – women pay a LOT of attention to fashion. Why? Because they try and look good all the time! It’s expected of them. They are raised learning how to dress, accessorize, and put on makeup.

So when you do something a lot, you become more attuned to it. This is why women notice the little things, like the shoes a guy is wearing, or his watch, or his sunglasses – because they pick out clothing and accessories like that for themselves!

If you dress nice, you’ll stand out in a crowd. No need for a suit and tie, you can go with a well designed shirt, well worn jeans. Clean shoes, shined, a nice watch, etc.. Take care of these details!

Most guys don’t bother, which is WHY you should. Women will notice the difference.

At the very least, invest in a cool pair of shoes you wear all the time. Even something as simple as this will help you get attention.

2. Smell Your Best All The Time

Men have fallen out of habit of wearing a good aftershave or cologne. But never underestimate the importance of scent. Just like when you smell a woman’s perfume and get all weak in the knees, they’ll catch a whiff of your cologne and melt inside.

Our sense of smell is one of our most powerful – but overlooked senses. I have actually had women track me down in a club because they were trying to find the source of that good smell they sensed nearby.

And when you’re on a date – fuhgetaboutit! As soon as you get close, you’re guaranteed to hear the girl exclaim “Oh my God, you smell so good!” Seriously, you can almost see the pheromones get released in her brain. It’s wicked!

Remember – play against the laziness of other men. Wearing a nice cologne will set you apart, and actually pull women towards you with no other effort on your part!

3. Smile And Make Lots Of Eye Contact

When I’m out at a bar or a club, I always cringe when I see the guys who stand in the corner, holding their drinks, looking around like a lost little puppy with a big frown on their face.

Too often, guys will gaze at a girl they think is hot, and the minute she looks their way, they turn away to try and act like they weren’t staring at her.

But when you lock eye contact with a girl – guess what? She NOTICES you. Suddenly, a face in the crowd stands out and registers in her brain.

And if you have a big frown or a blank stare on your face – guess what? That eye contact isn’t going to last very long! When your eyes meet, you gotta remember to SMILE!

Smiling is a positive thing. It makes people feel relaxed, happy, and comfortable. The more you smile, the better people feel around you.

If you lock eyes with her and smile, and she smiles back, congratulations, it’s on! This nonverbal conversation will make it easier to start speaking with her.

4. Communicate with her

Most shy guys are often left wondering why girls don’t notice him. This leads to him questioning himself. I’d guess that some even think that the woman is going to approach and ask him out.

It’s a rare woman who will do that though.

To women, if a guy doesn’t approach them, he’s not interested! Even if they LIKE a guy and find him attractive, they’ll never approach him. It’s always up to the guy.

So if you take some time and TALK to her, she’s guaranteed to notice you. But stay away from “boring” conversation topics like “Where are you from?” and “What do you do?”

Remember – the key here is to STAND OUT. When you approach a girl, ask her something interesting. Instead of saying something like “You’re hot, can I buy you a drink?” say “Hey, real quick – I just gotta know – which do you think is manlier, a guy drinking an apple martini, or a guy drinking a strawberry daiquiri?”

Obviously, there is a huge difference there. The second question is not likely something she’ll have heard. Aside from peaking her curious side, it will allow conversation to blossom.

The trick is to make yourself different, and therefore INTERESTING. Instead of giving in to the same old “boring” topics, flip them on their head – but be sure to be the one to TALK TO HER instead of waiting for her to talk to you. Because unless you get the ball rolling, she won’t be the one approaching you!

5. Have Fun!

It’s a painfully obvious fact that guys who have a good time get noticed by women.

Why? Because women want to have a good time too!

When you’re standing around, feeling bored, or lonely, or desperate, or whatever – you are not having fun. Other people IGNORE those who don’t have fun and sit there quietly.

But someone who’s laughing, dancing, chatting with others – those are the people who get noticed. In fact, those are the people who draw others towards them!

One of the fundamental keys in attracting women is to have fun with them! Fun generates all sorts of positive emotions in women, and eventually, those emotions get associated with you!

All too often, guys take themselves way too seriously when they are around a girl they like, because they don’t want to “blow it” with her. But when you play it safe, no one has any fun, and you get IGNORED. Because eventually, she’s going to go off and have some fun with another guy if you’re not meeting her needs!

And here’s the beauty of this – if you’re having fun and she isn’t – so what? YOU are having a good time, and because of that, you will attract another girl to you who is on the same wavelength!

Being fun will make you far more interesting and comfortable around than the average guy, and you’ll appear funnier to boot.

And remember – whether a woman loves you or hates you, at least she feels SOMETHING for you, and that’s better than nothing at all.